Solitaire.

Sex does not scare me. Let's remove that initial doubt. Sex is the most basic and simplistic rite that human has to offer. This is why it is embarrassing. We want our sex to be cerebral, or passionate and romantic, or cinematic, in order to cater to our intellect. We want it to be base and gritty, while still recognizing it as so, again, catering to your higher capacity. You want to give in to duck soup, but you don't want to be credited for creating it. If someone were to shout a straightforward math equation at you with the ferocity that accompanies sex, you would most likely be mortified. If they tried to engage you with it, you would be upset.  We do not take kindly to simplicity. We like to debase it. 

The frustrating aspect, which should seem so clear, is mentioned above. Everyone can do it. Everyone does it. There should be no medal, parade, pat on the back, accolade or award show for it. Is your prowess and/or exterior physique questionable? Did you bed someone who would rate higher than you in that field? Congratulations. This is still not remarkably scintillating news.  Are you monogamous? Polyamorous? Do your preferences slant from the traditional? Wonderful. Do you get paid? Good for you. Have you written a book on the subject? Please refrain.

I think it's time not to be categorized by archaic wants. I know it's difficult. Sexual aesthetics are hardwired into our psyche. It's not possible to ignore your survival instincts. Humans require it. Humans also have an issue with moderation. I'm not any sort of conservative, liberal,  religious or otherwise biased entity. I am just not an overtly sexual person in my everyday life. I do not ooze sexuality in the grocery store, or at work. When someone looks at me, I become uncomfortable. I don't bed strangers. This is not a conscious choice, it's just how I navigate my existence. Subject to change at any juncture. I would have been annihilated a few thousand years ago. Anyone who exists in a way parallel or opposite to how I do, I usually envy. There is nothing wrong with being sexual. I wish I was most of the time. 

But - please don't value someone over me because you might see 'theirs' quicker than mine. Our biology is basically the same. You can have four legs, three feet or two heads, and that is still not exceptionally different from human composition. I mean this in an intrinsic way. Don't like someone better because you have a higher chance of having sex with them. Don't promote someone in a professional situation because of their sexual flexibility. Even worse, don't assign tasks to someone because you find them sexy. Don't assume every person that calls for a specific 'seductive' being is a stalker. I'm calling bullshit on that. The chance of procreation affects nearly everything in our lives. It's tantamount to the meaning of life. Some of us just happen to be albino peacocks. Let us live!